Last Friday, I had another therapy session. When I walked into the therapy session, it was the normal silence that filled the room as both my therapist and I took our seats in the overly plushy rocking recliners. When we were both seated, he looked at me and asked how things were going. I didn’t have much of a response to that. Then, he asked me what I wanted to work on. I mustered some courage from within me, looked down at my bitten down nails (which used to be nicely manicured before my father died) and softly sad, “emotional eating…I want to work on emotional eating…I have been doing a lot of that since my father passed and relationships went astray.” My therapist nodded and said, “I see some shame in that statement.” I nodded, still staring at my nails. That’s the truth. There is so much shame in me going to food for comfort instead of having other things there to comfort me. We discussed this shame and my weight gain since my father passed away. Finally, he said that he could help me overcome this issue. So, I will be blogging about this experience of overcoming emotional eating for any of you who also struggle with this.
The first thing I have to do is convince myself that the goal is to not gain weight. The goal of “losing weight” sets one up for failure. Not gaining weight is a goal that is achievable. I agree with that 100%. So, step one is done for me. My new goal is to not gain any weight.
The second step is to give up sugars and carbs. You see, when you are emotional eating, you are not filling up on good food. You go to junk food for comfort. If you have diabetes in your family, sugars and carbs don’t metabolize as fast in you and it sticks right on your waist line. Big problem area. Once the sugars are gone from my diet for a few days, he stated that I will no longer crave them and my body will start debloating and detoxing.
The third step is to make sure I do some sort of exercise at least once or twice a week. It doesn’t have to be everyday. This is to just help me get back to working out and alleviates my chance of getting down on myself for missing a workout.
The last step is to stop taking work home. My home time should be my relaxing time. I am to leave all work…at work. I am to take some time to myself.
I also have to get the book, The End of Overeating by David Kessler. I am supposed to read parts of this before my next therapy session.
This is just the beginning of overcoming my emotional eating issue. I am convinced that my therapist will help me with this so that my self-confidence can come back and shame can go away. Right now, I am just a turtle hiding back in it’s shell as it is scared of the world around it because there has been so much hurt lately. Maybe, some day I can be the confident and successful woman I once was.